Foggy Mist of Our Own Minds

I must admit that I am a realistic optimist with much heavier emphasis on the optimistic side.  I am optimistic right down to my bones but have had the life experience enough and the wisdom of that experience to know that perspectives vary among us all.  There is much talk of the illusions in life but none more great than the illusion of taking things personally.  Even if a soul fully intended to hurt you deeply with words or actions, they do so only because of the illusions they hold.  Either they are fighting ghosts from wounds others have inflicted upon them that they have not yet healed and you triggered them or somewhere within them is held a deep admiration for you and they think that they are lesser than you.  You see, this is but an illusion.  We are all equal as human beings and none is greater than anyone else.  We all have our triggers, our weaknesses and strengths but not one of us is greater nor lesser than the other.  We forget this as we go through our days mired in egotistical thoughts that continually contrast and compare all of those souls around it not realizing that life is not a game that you win.  In living life as a gigantic race, if you strive to win at the expense of another, you will only lose in the end.

These are very difficult lessons to learn as we go through our days taking on more and more unhealed pain.  As we walk through the foggy mists of our own minds making assumptions not only about others but ourselves as well, we can never ever see the truth of what stands before us.  This illusion is one of the most difficult to break.  That is not to say that one should stand there and take blow after blow by those  mired in their own illusions.  One must have the self-love enough to side-step the blows and distance one's self from being pulled into a night mare.  We give away our power through our illusions not realizing that no one has the power to make us feel one single thing that we do not give our permission to feel.  We allow the blows to land, we see the threat of illusory attack and we defend and we strike and we take on the pain of others when we lose the ability to see the truth.  I write about this so much because it pains me to see so many taking on unnecessary pain and/or living with mortal emotional wounds.  This world is not always love, light and rainbows when you are caught in the illusion of victims and villains.  Are there folks out there that intend to do harm?  Sure there are but if you see them only as evil, you miss an opportunity to understand and in the absence of understanding within you there may be born a terrible emotion - fear.  Nothing steals away the light and your personal power like fear.  Can another harm you?  Can another take your life?  Yes, they can.  In this realm, this is true. But if you knew that the soul lived on regardless of a physical body, would you become as fearful?

If you knew that in life, nothing happens by accident and that everything was perfect as a process of learning, would you see life differently?  I do not mean to suggest that we should attempt to physically embrace those aiming a weapon in your direction.  I suggest rather that we become aware of the bigger picture, the causes of strife, of pain and suffering in this world and do what we can to contribute light, love and peace to any situation we might find ourselves in.  I am not saying this is easy by any stretch of the imagination but if you try, you will begin to understand how precious life is and what a beautiful gift it is to stand on this earth and watch the sun rise or watch a butterfly in flight, to hear the birds sing, to watch children at play and to know that no matter what it is that you have suffered or endured, you are loved and infinitely empowered to heal self and live life truly.  When we become too mired in the illusions that pain can create, we cut off any sliver of light from entering our world.  It is okay to feel pain but to own it forever without allowing the process of healing it to move and progress as it was intended is like imprisoning yourself forever in a very dark place and becoming angry at the world for the prison you created and walked into tossing the key out when you cut off your own self love. 

These concepts are advanced I realize but they can be learned and learned by any soul willing to open their hearts and seek healing.  My life has taught me these things and I must admit that I learned them the hardest of ways.  There were times I was so mired in my illusions I locked myself up and destroyed the key.  What a miserable time that was fighting ghosts and villains of my own creation.  Oh sure there were actors more than willing to play the parts I cast them in but it was my own reactions in the absence of understanding that imprisoned my heart and soul in darkness.  When the pain got too great I began looking for the answers within my own thinking.  I found the patterns and themes and tugged on the strings and was brought to the core of my own assumptions...my own creations and when I found I had no one to blame but myself, my assumptions and my own choices, I began to realize just how powerful I was and how powerful the illusion of pain could be.  But we, we are not limited in our ability to learn, to see, to love and to understand.  We must only chose to open our hearts and minds to the truth about ourselves, accept every action, every thought and every reaction to all of life's challenges.  When we accept the errors of our judgments knowing we did the only things we knew how to do at any given time, we begin to forgive.  As we begin to forgive, we begin to also understand the actions of others and can even find a measure of forgiveness for actions taken within the foggy mists of illusions that others held.  It becomes hard then to remain an angry, weak and lost victim.  When we know the power of words, the power of the energy behind our own thoughts, we might also learn how to create life in the infinitely positive.  That's when the world begins to become a bright, beautiful and amazing place.

I wish for you the brightest, purest and most beautiful self love seen, felt, heard and acknowledged within you.  It is already there at your core.  Let that flame roar to a fiery inferno of bliss, healing and joy.  Accept yourselves as perfection in the scheme of this design here in the Earth school and know some lessons may be hard won but once you understand or even attempt to try to, you will open the door to higher love and higher learning.  When you open up, watch how your world is transformed over time and new souls come in to assist you as you go.  Enough of my coffee induced ramblings this morning.  Have a wonderful day beautiful dreamers.  You are loved.

(c) Jaie Hart (photo, random internet find)

Judgement Unaware

Judgement is such a funny thing.  We dispense it with each other all of the time creating prejudice and division, entertaining the good or the bad and labeling others as such.  However, are we truly capable of judging another or their path really?  I question our ability to judge because I know human beings.  We are each like a circle and depending on our interaction with other aspects of other circles, we can only know one or two degrees of each other at any one time.  We cannot judge someone as wholly bad or wrong because of one degree of their persona that we have come to know and yet we do it without much understanding.  We cannot really escape judgement, I think, here in this frame because we have attached to each of us an ego that by its very nature compares, contrasts, tries, judges and condemns others on auto pilot.  While I am aware of this fact, I am also aware of the fact that I may judge a person's behavior that I experience as bad or wrong but I also know that I cannot see the whole of another person, nor can I see his path.  If I were to wholly condemn someone because of our interactions, I'm really creating negative energy for myself.

Having said that, are their certain people I refuse to hand out with?  Oh yes, absolutely the truth because something in me ignites certain behavior within them that when combined, creates a wholly draining energetic experience and vice versa.  But, I have learned that it is not my place to judge them as a good person or a bad person.  There are just those that we run across that we negatively react to and those we run across that we wholly resonate with.  I think that those we react the strongest too actually give us a unique opportunity to figure out where our buttons are hidden.  If we can find what really pushes our own buttons, we can seek to understand why those buttons exist and if they exist due to assumption and unhealed pain, we can dig a little deeper, seek to understand and perhaps, heal the pain, removing the button.  Then, if we should run into the person who once got under our skin or others like them, we don't have to create the same negative energy reaction.  We can learn to live and let live.

In my view, I know there is much I do not know.  But, I know that Source sees all, understands all and loves all of creation.  Who am I to judge another of Source's creations?  Going back to my original thought, I am incapable of judging another as a good person or bad person.  I am, however, very capable of discerning which interactions I prefer and don't and will behave accordingly.  I have a very busy life with lots of responsibility.  I will not tolerate emotional manipulators or energy vampires.  I try not to judge people and this is a fact, however, if people manipulate me for energy, I am quickly done.  Many of these folks are quite fine individuals who have made choices I would not make and they are at various levels of awareness in this world.  But, I will exert my right to choose who I will participate with and who I won't.  I don't care for negative energy, drama for drama's sake and people who attempt to steal from me what I would willingly give if they would just learn some more amenable behaviors or honesty and direct communication perhaps.  I also will not tolerate those who lay unspoken and not-agreed to be me, expectations upon me.  While it's true that I hold those in my inner circle to higher standards, I do my best to live up to my own standards.  I love and hold compassion for all souls at a basic level because I truly believe that we are one.  But I am not above anger, frustration and wanting to steer clear of certain people and that is my right.  Likewise, I can totally respect and appreciate those who might wish to steer clear of me.

I have a rather unusual effect on people.  Unwittingly, I intend to expose the wounds and weaknesses of others rather quickly.  These wounds and weaknesses are escalated rather quickly when I refuse to engage in the typical unaware control dramas (read James Redfield, The Celestine Prophecy).  I do attempt always to deal with everyone with love and respect but when you expose people's wounds and weaknesses, they tend to react rather poorly.  Vengeance is often a first tool to fight.  I do not intend to cause harm.  In fact, I'm here for the opposite reason.  I mend souls through shining light in the dark places they may not be aware that exist within them.  Some folks cry out for love and help.  Sometimes acknowledging them is enough, forgiving them is enough and walking away while holding nothing but compassion is the best and kindest thing that you can do.  Hurting a wounded soul by putting them in their place is not helpful.  Not really.  No one benefits.  Not you, not them period.  I think that is why understanding that we all have wounds and weaknesses is key.  Knowing we all have egos more prone to react from triggers is important.  Understanding even better how to assess and respond to a situation with others is absolutely priceless.  Realize we do not know everything about everyone.  We barely know ourselves until we put forth a concerted effort to learn and we cannot learn by accepting how the outside world defines us.

The point of this article is to create understanding, to make you aware that judgment is inevitable but you can achieve greater understanding circumventing inappropriate or uncalled for reactions and that you have the right to participate in what you choose to and to disengage from what you do not wish to participate in.  See people for who they are and don't expect an angry and wounded soul to act like they are perfect and wonderful.  Let them be who they are and you can make choices accordingly.  We cannot change each other.  Judgement will never get you there.  However, understanding the framework within which you move and interact will bring you greater understanding and much more peace as you move through your life.  ~Blessings of great love, higher wisdom and much light.

(c) 2012 Jaie Hart (photo, random internet find)