What is the story of your path telling you? It’s easiest to start with the patterns and themes that have been presented for you to experience time and time again. Many paths have themes. There are solitary paths, paths of painful relationships, paths of joy and camaraderie, there are paths of higher traditional education, there are paths of non-traditional education and so many more. So, what has been the purpose of your path thus far as you have journeyed through the whole of your life? It can’t be all pain and loss? What are all those patterns and themes, the things you have experienced the most? What are the patterns no longer repeating? Do you know? Have you reflected? What are your conclusions and are you certain that you have really gained the intended wisdom?
I will give you a little tiny piece of advice. If you think your learning has always been about how small you are, not being good enough, not being smart enough, good looking-enough or how to lose, you may be missing the real point in the lesson. Let’s take a breath for a moment and reflect. Take another breath just because. Now, I want you to clear your mind and take a little journey back in time. I want you to look for a few small and simple things. Are you with me still? Good. Okay, let’s go. Go all the way back to childhood and friends. Who did you laugh with and who did you make smile? Note that. Scroll forward a little bit, who did you help no matter how it turned out for you – our focus is just what your actions were and not anyone else’s reactions. Got some? Jot them down. Now, who did you first love with your heart wide open? Don’t focus on the end but the moment your heart loved. Were there other times? Good! Note them. Who where you there for? Who was there for you in any capacity at all at any time. It could have been a sibling, a cousin, a parent, aunts, uncles or friends – a pet even. Got something? Good. Note it.
I want you to hold on to the moment that these things were experienced and good – not the moments after where things may have turned out differently. I want you to really focus in on the moments that you really gave of yourselves without a care for the ultimate outcome or those moments someone really gave of themselves to you with out a care for the ultimate outcome. Remember how it felt in those moments, no matter what happened next. These moments are the giving times and times you were called to move from the heart and you did it or you were called upon to receive. These are times you heeded a call to the heart and you learned how to give or created a call for others to respond in kind. Now, if you consider certain outcomes of these same situations, did you not also learn ways that maybe you shouldn’t give?
Consider struggles also that you may have had repeatedly in life. To really get the lesson, you’re going to have to go way beyond the superficial appearance of something. For example, maybe you repeatedly lost jobs, lost money, were robbed, taken advantage of, misunderstood, etc. These are all very difficult experiences to learn from but in these situations, you were learning and it wasn’t just that the world and its inhabitants were evil and hurtful and that you are a helpless, gullible victim. These are superficial reactions. We all run into some bad apples in this world and have bad experiences. I know some who have taken the worst experience you can possibly imagine and turned it to good by sharing the knowledge of the experience. There are also some who have had a string of bad life time experiences and climbed into a bottle and died. We have many choices to make here as we journey and I won’t judge anyone’s path and I’m even careful now how I might judge my own. You see, here on Earth, our environment and upbringing shapes our psychology and how we view the world and our journey here in life. Our view can be tampered with by those also impaired by challenging environmental psychology. Sometimes its not even about what other people did when they were growing up but how they may have interpreted what they experienced. We are so very complex. But, one thing we were gifted with is the ability to notice patterns and themes. In fact, these things are part of our survival instinct – e.g., if you cross a path with a belly crawling creature that rattles, you remember that you may suffer a lethal bite, right?
So, I’ve written about pattern analysis in my books but that isn’t the place you live or exist. It is something to do with a goal in mind. These things have been a part of your journey in life and love it or hate it, it was uniquely your experience and whatever it is you did with that experience is the crux of the thing you were intended to learn from. So, don’t dwell on bad past experiences or good past experiences. Focus on what you are learning, focus on what you have overcome, focus on the things that you have mastered either beautifully or by the seat of your britches. Now, consider, what is it that you want to do, to learn or experience next? The beautiful thing about life is that you can dream and open yourself up to the ever-unfolding path that is uniquely yours. We have so many choices. We can experience something terrible and shut out the world forever. No judgment from me but I might worry about the beautiful things that you could be missing out on – important things, wonderful things. We can experience something terrible and discover how it came to be – was it random or was some part of you seeking an experience? It could be both or neither. Life can be like that. We learn what we intend to learn and sometimes, we just seem to be learning about how to be with the emotion of a challenging experience. It’s okay to get angry, to be fearful, to be happy and seek silver linings…in a way, all the answers are yes on this path, but not necessarily the way you might have imagined.
Regardless of lessons understood or not, your life is an epic tale. Every step you take not only contributes to your story but your story also influences the story of others. You are amazingly you and you have walked your path up to this point just exactly as you meant to do. Trust yourself to continue to weave your amazing story of life here on Earth. Trust yourself to take every breath and step in perfect time, to understand repeating cycles and circles and to get the meaning intended just for you and your conscious evolution. Whether you tell your story or just live it, we walk the path with you weaving our own experiences and influencing each other and in a way, walk each other home. I hope that you enjoy the journey. When the journey becomes difficult and fraught with core-level-challenges, I pray that you always find that gossamer flame of light, hope and faith within to guide you on your next step and to continue to breath in your next breath and the next breath so that you will be grateful for the experience of physical existence here when your journey ends. Just remember that nothing here stays the same. Everything changes. That means the leaves fall and the trees are laid bare to the cold of winter, but the seasons change and new growth begins again in the spring-time. You’ve got this. Ready? One more breath. Now, take that next step with courage, with love and the greatest curiosity your life has ever know. You have a beautiful story to live and I am so grateful that you are here now.
© 2019 (photos/words) Jaie Hart