Saturday, October 8, 2011

Victims and Villains

In this world, no one is more justified in bad behavior than the victims and villains. The villains having suffered tragedy, trauma and deep, dark unhealed pain are justified in their acts of anger and agression on the unsuspecting. The victims, also having suffered tragedy, trauma and deep, dark pain are justified in their acts of vile vengeance. And, so it goes...each trapped in this horrible prison of no love and no light and they willingly go through the actions again and again looking for that moment of sucess that makes them feel good. It is a tragic act to witness. What's even more tragic is that the only seeming way out, forgiveness, seems like at fate much worse than death. They can hear the words but cannot let go of their justification for pain and creating more of the same. It is a vicious cycle and circle that will repeat until one or the other can find the courage to step outside the lines drawn, seek to understand the pain both felt and inflicted and learn to see their own hands in their own undoing. Forgiving a villain is a heinous unacceptable thought to a victim and I understand this so would never suggest someone start there. To make the shift one must learn to find a way to accept accountability for choosing reactions, emotions and embracing pain. It's hard to believe that is a choice, but the aware know this is true. The only way back into the light is to seemingly give up the ego's fight to be right and maintain its justification and plunge headlong into the abyss of darkness...letting go. Within the darkness there is peace, no motion, space to feel and breathe, cry and grieve. It is like the caterpillar who weaves a cocoon around himself to prepare for a new body and flight.

The steps are not easy to take but diving into the emotion, that is the key to freedom...diving in and yet taking no action other than to "see the truth" or understand what is really happening. When one can see the wars for energy at any cost, one one can see that the saving of face dispells any form of grace that may be held to pull you through...that's when progress can begin. So, looking back - how did this happen to me from the perspective of self-action only...forgetting about what the villain did and intenly searching for choices made that lead to a state of victimization is what we need. Once we can isolate our own actions that lead to a fall or a state of becomming a victim, we can see the errors of our ways and know definitively that errors are okay. They don't take away from you. In fact, the act of seeing your own errors brings growth and you're still a beautiful and amazing soul if you've made mistakes. When the realization dawns that you are not bad, unlucky or singled out to become a victim in anyone's mind but your own, you can see that you are no victim at all and you can begin to forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know and be glad that know you do know.

Moving a few steps further ahead, you might wonder about the villain. Did you know that a villain is only a victim too? This does not excuse bad behavior and bad behavior should be stopped for many reasons. Not because it hurts and creates more victims but each act carried out by a villain further reinforces his or her own victimhood. Every attack we engage in pushes us further and further from the light of our own self-love. We victimize ourselves in this regard without ever even considering we hold that much power. But, we do. We just need to be willing to step out of the shadows of the roles we created to learn long enough to fully comprehend the verses and lines well rehearsed to lock us into our own prisons.

To see the truth, one must find their center, their courage, strength and love. This is not easy for those living a life where they have become victimized. But, it is not impossible and I tell you from first hand experience. When in a victimized state of thinking there is never any shortage of events or people to continue the abuse. And we join in that with our own unloving thoughts. But, when you can understand the villain is a victim and you know they are already in a very dark and unholy place with their thoughts, adding to that with further action that will only provide you with fleeting feelings of victory replaced continually by more emptiness, you learn to step back and just understand. You learn to side step the attacks of the victim because you see the core of their actions and you learn how easy it is to side step the blows and move to a state of understanding and compassion while holding enough self-love to protect yourself...not defend and continue to engage but rather a letting go with thoughts.

There is a lot to consider in these words and no one knows more than I how repulsive they might be taken by a victim with fresh wounds. I too had to hear these words once. For whatever reason, I took them to heart and I found forgiveness for myself and all the villains in the world. I now know they are victims too. I know that when I step outside of that prison, I can help free myself and them to move on to greater learning (and pray that it comes along with love and forgiveness). It is a matter of choice between living in twisted anxious conflict and living in peace, light and love. We have the power to make such choices. Love yourselves first and foremost and learn that for every problem, there is a positive solution...for every puzzle that life leaves on your path, there are ways to solve them. Those ways are not in the outside world. The answers are within us all. We need only learn to try on some new and different thinking and find a way to feel and love ourselves through it. It can be done, I pray it is done quickly for all trapped in this very dramatic and painful part of the dream.  Just remember that villains create victims and victims become villains.  Disengage.  Love yourself.  It's possible to heal and become whole again.  Blessings dear souls.

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