Dream in Love, Dream in Light

Oh this dream grows ever more interesting…the sights, the sensations, the knowledge and experience gained.  I shake my head sometimes in awe of the connections and confirmations everywhere I turn.  The design of life is both beautiful and tragic, seemingly.  It truly is a matter of perspective.  We can focus on demons and darkness or shadows.  We can focus on angles and light or love.  It’s all up to us and the way we wish to dream as well as what our soul dictates we most need to learn while we’re dreaming here.  What I think I love the most in this world are those moments between daylight and night or night and daylight – where every energy, breath and thought hangs in perfect balance.  When that perfect moment of equanimity strikes,  it has an unmistakable impact on the soul, the mind and even the heart.  In those rare moments of balance and clarity, we know that everything is truly perfect.  I love life so much and this dream, well, goodness.  All I can seem to say is that it is truly, sincerely, divinely perfect in every step and breath, experience and sensation.

In those very quiet moments in which I feel I am most alone, I reach out with my soul and I can feel how much I am a part of everything and then, if I really let go and tune in, I begin to really comprehend that I am never alone.  In quiet moments of stillness and peace I can feel the heart beats of all those I love both on this side of the veil and beyond.  It’s true what they say that love—once you find it or it finds you, it is never ever lost. 

 Love is the one thing that we take with us where ever we go.  It’s essence is more valuable than all of the gold and other precious elements of this Earth and among all the stars and planets in existence.  The soul is made for love and compassion to both give it and receive it.  We need only open up to it and let it flow.  It’s so simple.  All of the drama we create to divert our attention and create our lessons—I laugh sometimes.  We are like master programmers of the most amazing games and dreams we can imagine.  We set the pace, the time-frame, the keys and levels –all of it.  We are the master planners, gatekeepers and dreamers.  It’s so funny how much fog we create to obscure our own divine vision.  But rest assured that you are the architect and as much as you create diversions and walls, shadows and smoke, you always retain the power for mastery and clarity of your own designs.

We are so powerful.  Our words give off so much magnetic energy.  We draw to us those things we need born of the very thoughts we think.  We drive and yet we do not know we are in the driver’s seat.  We create unimaginable things and start to think, “this is too much for me, hand it over to God, let God deal with it” – always seeking rescue.  We are children of Source and our benevolent Creator has empowered us with the gift of creation in our own lives.  If we have created something that is too much for us, we need only clear our minds, our hearts and our thoughts and create anew, create more cleanly with greater love, compassion and understand.  We hold the tools and the powers to manifest our divine destiny.  We just unconsciously wield those tools and power.  Step into your light and Source given love and strength.  Master your world in clear confidence that it is perfect, you are perfect and your brothers and sisters dreaming here with you are also perfect.  See the truth through the illusion of small-minded thinking.  You are better than that.  So much better than that.  Be the love and the light you want and need most in this world.  Heal the pain from the illusions you have created with your own minds…see your experiences from a macro view point instead of the micro view of an ego wounded and fearful and you will be free.  You will learn to control the elements of your dreams.  Step out of the shadows and shine your lights. Give yourself permission to throw off unnecessary mind-created limitations and step more closely into the Mind of the All of Everything.  Life is beautiful and precious.  Enjoy your dreams in love and pure light.  ~Blessings dearest souls.

(c) 2012, Jaie Hart (photo source imprinted on photo and is not mine - I just love it.)

Shining the Light on One Relationship Challenge

I cannot tell you how many times I have heard about, been through and watched helplessly as others struggled with this one very significant aspect of a relationship…the various ways people demonstrate love.  I write often about perspectives and prisons.  The reason is that we create so many in all of the various places of our lives and as a result, we support the self-obscurity of the truth of a situation.  We are all individuals.  Everyone of us thinks, acts and reacts to life based on our own core set of ideals.  So often in relationships and especially romantic ones we have this mistaken belief that if someone doesn’t perfectly and frequently demonstrate love in the way that we want and need it that the other person doesn’t care about us or love us.  This is huge so please pay close attention.  You have to have the ability to clearly discern the truth about this one from the judgment you might exhibit based on the prison you are trapping yourself within.  For example, Sue (made up person) is an overtly demonstrative and affectionate person. Her partner Bob (another made up person) is not an overtly demonstrative and affectionate person.  Sue shows that she loves Bob by always telling him the uplifting and complementary things that she wants to hear and may always touch his hand or shoulder while speaking and always reaches out to him when they are together. This is how Sue demonstrates love.  Bob demonstrates love differently.  Bob demonstrates his love for people by being a fixer of things, being there for people, listening and offering advice.  Bob adores Sue and is always fixing things and just being there to listen to her speak and share her thoughts.  Sue, over time, has begun to feel that Bob doesn’t really love her.  She raises the issue in conversation stating that Bob is not demonstrative and she doesn’t feel like he even notices her.  Bob, hearing this and knowing how much he does love Sue is offended and doesn’t understand how she could possibly feel that way – he’s there every day whenever she needs him, he’s always fixing things and always listening.  They get locked into battle defending their positions and sadly, losing sight of what is really there.

For Sue, she either needs to understand that Bob demonstrates love differently than she does and that fact in no way minimizes how he feels about her or she needs to decide that she needs to find someone more like her.  It is unfair of Sue to require Bob to become more like her and demonstrate love in the same way she does.  For Bob, he either needs to understand what Sue is saying and agree to try to be a little more demonstrative if he can be or he needs to decide that he needs someone a little more like him.  In Sue’s case, the man adores her and is there for her every day but she feels insecure about their relationship because he doesn’t demonstrate love the way that she does.  The perception that someone does not care and love us just because they do not show love and affection the way that we do is untrue.  We have to understand that everyone is different and that difference can be a beautiful thing.  So many perfectly good relationships are thrown away on this issue and so many conflicts are ignorantly engaged in in the absence of understanding of how different people demonstrate love.

If we would take the time to understand how other people demonstrate love, we would feel less insecure about many of our relationships.  You have to really know and understand yourself and your  needs and you have to really be able to open yourself up fully to receiving unconditional love and understanding of your partner.  If you can’t do this and you cannot understand and reconcile the differences in how you express yourself, you are locking yourself into a prison of conflict.  Until one person becomes ready and willing to see the other person’s side of the equation and the willingness to accept another person unconditionally just the way they are, you are wasting your time and someone else’s and only you can figure out the real reasons behind why you would do that to you.

We make so many assumptions and judgments about other people based on how we are.  That is so unfair and it really imprisons and tortures you.  It also makes the lives of people around you very difficult to bear.  I speak from experience here.  I had a family member once that I went out on a steep financial limb for.  I really loved this family member and just wanted to help.  Because I am not an overtly demonstrative person and showed my love differently, I was accused of being an insensitive and unloving person.  I’m not that and I know that.  Over time, I began to see that this person demonstrated love in a certain way and would not believe that anyone could love her unless they demonstrated love to her only the way that she demonstrated love.  This bred so much conflict for her in her life, with her partners and even with family members.  I think that if she could only understand that people love differently and those differences do not mean they love her less, she could free herself from years of pain and anguish.

So, the next time you think your spouse or partner doesn’t love you because he doesn’t take out the trash or cook your favorite meal without being asked – think again.  The next time you think the person you care about doesn’t care about you because they don’t call you like you call them, think again.  Now, having said that we also have to be aware of what our needs are.  We often want to make the other person bad so we can feel okay about complaining.  Here is where understanding, unconditional love and acceptance comes in.  You do not have to hurt and blame people for not being to you what you need.  If someone cannot be what you really need, tell them so and send them away with love so you can find that person closer to being able to demonstrating what you need. There is no need to hurt others because your needs are not being met.  State your needs, if they are still not met, stand up like a grown up and make a mature decision – accept the situation as it is with love and understanding or have the love and understanding to allow yourself to move on and find something else.  There is so much unnecessary conflict where blame and attack, judgment and persecution run rampant.  It is so unnecessary.  If my partner were to tell me tomorrow that I am not meeting his need.  I would be sad.  I would do what I was capable of to improve but I know I can’t change the heart of me.  If I cannot change enough to make him happy, I love him enough to let him go and pursue what would make him happy.  I would not need to hate him nor hurt him for being who he is and needing what he needs.  Conversely, if my partner cannot be what I need, I will raise my needs to him and trust that he will do what he can.  If he can’t, I know I must either love and accept him for who he is or I have to be honest and let him know that my need is so important I must leave to pursue it somewhere else.

You’d be surprised at what you can learn about each other together with lots of understanding, effort, acceptance and unconditional love.  We don’t have to make other people out to be villains for being who they are.  We also cannot expect people to automatically know what we need.  If you need something specific, ask for it.  If you don’t ask and its not given, don’t punish your partner with conflict.  Ask for what you want.  If they are capable of providing it and consent to doing so, great!  If they can’t do it or they won’t, love yourself enough to make the right decisions for you.  There are so many other applications here.  Give it some thought!   Have a blissful day.

(c) 2012, Jaie Hart (photo, random internet find)

Sensing Energy

There are so many subtle things about this world that we miss all the time.  I’m thinking specifically of energy.  Maybe it’s a simple matter of focus.  I think of it like hearing a radio but not knowing what music is.  You hear it but dismiss it because there are no words to help you understand what you are hearing and separating out what you hear to recognize it as something.  But, once you know what it is, you can hear it even if it the music is on so low that it is barely audible.  Many things in life are like this.  As far as energy, did you know that we emanate various frequencies of energy based on our moods and our beliefs?  This is not made up.  You can search youtube.com or the internet for information on the field of energy the human heart alone generates.  You feel it but without knowing its there, you cannot define it and pull that energy out from all of the other sensations that you are taking in to realize what it is.  We generate energy.  Everything on this planet emanates an energy field.  When you learn to tune into the energy and define it from the rest of the sensations you’re taking in you can begin to discern a little bit more about the energy you are perceiving once you get some practice with what different types of energy feels like.  Just like different music on the radio, it takes time to listen to the different songs and then you can name them or even sing along with them.

Another thing about energy is that it carries signatures that we eventually learn to pick up on and after some time and practice, you can read the energy and learn from that energy.  You can begin to discern what the energy of love feels like versus the energy of anger, sorrow or sadness.  You can begin to discern when people around you are troubled or elated.  When you pay even more attention, rooms will begin to speak to you, places that hold energy for various reasons will begin speaking to you and you will begin to discern the history as well as presence of energy any place you go.  There is nothing mystical or magical about this.  The one thing I would say is that just like people have various levels of acuity in their hearing, so too, do people have various levels of “feeling” and “discerning” energy.  Sometimes the feeling becomes automatically translated to words in one’s mind…sometimes you feel the energy and can find no words to define it until you have enough experience to read the energy.

To change the subject for a moment, but only seemingly, I was born empathic.  I could feel all emotion.  I could walk into a room and instantly know who was upset, angry or happy.  It was a useful tool growing up in my home.  I always thought empathy was more internal and intuitive but now that I think about it, it is an energy sensitivity.  Emotions generate energy in our fields.  Some perceive it as auric colors, some perceive it in variations of thickness of air in a room and some feel in their bodies where an energy emanates in others.  I believe now that it is all the same thing.  For many reasons we can feel each other and so without even knowing what is happening, we can posture energetically or emotionally to deal with people we face who are giving off a certain type of energy.  It is so fascinating to me how little we understand about energy.  Connecting this knowledge to something else is even more fascinating…intent.  What if we used our intent to specifically manifest certain types of energies so that others could purposefully fear them?  When our governments and politicians speak words that generate fear, they are generating a certain kind of energy and as the words are passed on from person to person we infect each other with the energy of fear, panic, woe, anger, etc.  Awareness of this in the wrong hands can result in some very negative consequences but not having awareness can have equally negative consequences.

Consider the volume, just on facebook alone, of all the of the life coaches, spiritual thinkers and loving individuals posting thoughts to make you think, reach higher, heal and return to a more positive and loving state.  Do you know why this is occurring?  Well, some are aware of what they are doing on purpose – like me – and some just know how good it feels to generate positive energy and infect others with beautiful positive energy brings about a positive frame for many to work within.  Either way, it’s a good counter to all of the tragic and fearful energies rampant in this world.  If we want to change, we are going to have to learn more about ourselves and the tools we have available to us to make changes.  Become aware of your energy.  Become aware of the energy you intentionally or even unconsciously emanate.  Everything in this world matters.  Your thoughts matter.  Your feelings matter.  Your words matter.  Your dreams matter.  We were not put here to destroy ourselves and each other.  We were put here to refine our souls, to learn and to grow.  Devastation and destruction need not be part of that equation but until we pull our heads out of the sand and learn to see what is real out there and understand just how we contribute either to the problems in this world or the solutions, we’ll only consciously contribute to the status quo.  That is just no longer an option for us.  We are growing too much for that to be acceptable.

Know this one thing, through the light of consciously dreaming in this incarnation, we can change what we feel and what we see.  We may not get the benefit of seeing the many transformations we create but we can trust that if we harness our own awareness and let that awareness be completely undeterred in its mission to align with the positive, we will make a change, we will help one another and we will return to ourselves and the truth of our existence here on this plane.  With these words, I am sending nothing but love and light to give you food for thought on your journey to awareness, to love and the conscious creation of your beautiful dreams.  When we open ourselves up to create in the positive, we emanate love and light and affect those around us and that affect is like ripples and waves that travel across the planet.  Like a smile that travels from stranger to stranger across the globe returning to you when you need it most, so does the energy of love and light travel.  So, if everything creates energy, do you now see how your intent and words create a field of energy?  If you continually string together a tale of woe in every human interaction, you are putting negative energy and fear out there in this world.   We’ve all done it.  But, when we become aware of what we’re doing, we awaken from the illusion and can begin to consciously create our dreams in this world, receive the beautiful love and light of this world and even begin to transform it into something better.  Just some food for thought over coffee this morning…~Blessings!

(c) 2012, Photo-random internet find.