Thursday, January 8, 2009

Thoughts Attract Thoughts

Because we have a mind, it's always working; always thinking. Did you know that what you think is what you attract? You're familiar with the phrase "like attracts like" right? It's the same concept with thoughts. Think back and remember a moment when you were really happy. When you were happy you were thinking positive thoughts. Those positive thoughts draw in more positive thoughts and you tell the universe in such moments, I want the positive or I want happiness. Now think about a moment when you were really down. When you were down, you were thinking negative and fearful thoughts. Those negative thoughts draw in more negative thoughts and you tell the universe in such moments, I want negative thoughts or I want sadness. The same is true with other emotions…what ever thoughts you line up with an emotion, that's what you draw to you. So, be careful what thoughts you allow to take hold.

Lets talk about a negative example for a moment. Have you ever forgotten to set your alarm and the next day you woke up late. Your first thoughts are typically rather negative and then you ended up rushing as a result of being late. There is no time, you're rushing, thinking negative thoughts about the darned alarm clock or angry with yourself because you forgot to set it or you just stayed up too late. You can't find the right thing to wear, everything else you want to put on suddenly seems to need to be ironed, no time for coffee, no time for anything, speeding to work, rushing in the door…the whole day can be thrown off if you keep a negative outlook. Like attracts like.

Lets talk about a positive example for a moment. You wake up fully rested after a great night of sleep. Your morning goes well, the traffic is there but you turn your favorite song on the radio instead. You notice the beauty of the sunrise on your way to work, that guy in the truck slowed down so you could merge onto the freeway, at the next on-ramp, you slow down to let someone else on the freeway. At work, there is a lot of stuff that has to get done quickly but in a positive frame, you can think better, quicker and plan to accomplish what needs to be done.

There are hundreds of examples. I have a family member who has always held a negative thought process about life. This family member sees the world through a purely victim mentality, short-changed on every front and the universe responds to that every day with more negativity…why? To give this family member an opportunity to grow beyond the negativity and try to consider other options, thoughts and actions that might help this family member live a better life. But, this family member continually rejects any form of positive thought and time and time again, creates self-fullfilling prophecy in the negative. It's so very hard to watch.

Bad things can happen to us but the next steps are always important. What do you do with the "bad" thing that happens? Do you shut down all chance for positive thought thereafter or do you try to look for the silver lining? Sometimes something bad is actually something good you might not ever have had the chance to learn. If you learned something, how can that be all bad? Sure it could be painful but to settle into a state of a continual pity party can make that bad event a lifetime of negativity. It's truly up to you. One of the most powerful things we possess in life is the ability to change our perspective and choose to look on the bright side.

I've seen some pretty bad things, have experienced some intensely traumatic things in my life but the one thing I cannot do for long is dwell in a state of negativity. I can't do it because I definitively know that thinking negative can make a bad situation horribly worse. If I shift my perspective and try to find the wisdom in a situation or a lesson, life gets much easier to deal with. I've been a single mother for most of my adult life. I can't tell you how many times the bank account was drained and there was food to buy, milk to buy, someone who needed new shoes, new clothes or school books. I never worried for too long because I always believed that some how or someway, we would be okay. In such moments I would get sudden ideas to re-balance my checkbook…and believe it or not, I'd find huge errors in my favor..$300 one time and $500 another. It could be coincidence but were I in a completely negative state, I wouldn't have checked the check book, would have held onto the negativity and probably would have received a bill from the IRS or something. The point is, looking for silver linings, focusing on the bright side and just having a strong belief in yourself and your future can make bad things seem not so bad.

My thoughts for today are along the lines of keeping the negative thoughts in check. When you notice negative thoughts about yourself, about other people or situations, flip the thoughts around and restate them in your mind in the positive. Send every negative thought away by flipping it around to the positive…if you trust this will make a difference in your life, it will. In the mean time, when life gets a little tough, get back in touch with the positive…get outside and notice the flowers, the way the leaves seem etched in gorgeous sunlight, how green the grass looks, how beautiful a cerulean sky is, how peaceful it is to watch birds in flight or how uplifting it can be to watch small children at play. Get back to basics…take a walk…do something healthy…take a drive…do something positive to put yourself in a good and positive frame. It makes all the difference in the world and really helps take the sting out of the rough things in life that can throw us off balance and leave us feeling dark. Don't stay in the negative..don't deny negative thoughts and feelings. They do exist…you just want to flip the thoughts to neutral or positive so that you can attract the positive. I hope you have a positive and happy day.

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