Friday, October 30, 2015
Are you Conflict Avoidant? Read On...
Wow what a week has it been. I’ve had one conflict after another arise and I’m reminded of the Whack-a-Mole game. I realized that as soon as I whacked one away, another cropped up. After a while I began to lose patience with all that whacking away of conflict. I decided to step back from it and get some perspective, a much higher perspective. What I saw in a moment in the sun, listening to Deval Premal chanting was that each conflict that presented itself was actually an opportunity to learn. I took a deep breath and just soaked in the light of the sun. I calmed my frazzled nerves and went back to my day with a new perspective. I can choose to be conflict avoidant and irritated when it shows up on my path or I can observe it and consider precisely why it showed up on my path.
Now, with this perspective, I can see with much greater clarity that conflict is actually a wonderful opportunity to learn something. Whether the conflict is generated by people, situations or things, there is something to be learned. So, learn I did and I’m so very grateful. With people conflict arises primarily from assumption. When each side makes an assumption from a perception filtered through their own environmental psychology and considers that assumption to be truth without even attempting to fact-check, conflict will arise. Now, if each side is willing to tackle the conflict head on, open their minds and hearts to the fact that their perceptions and assumptions may not be the truth, each may have an opportunity to grow closer in understanding and even embrace compassion for the formerly held perception or assumption. Is that not amazing? It certainly is to me.
Oh if we only came with instruction books! Sadly, we do not and we do not for good reason. Are you curious about that reason? It’s simple. You are infinitely amazing just exactly as you are and whether you know it or not, you love the experience of living and through that living, you learn. If you had a book that gave you all the answers, you’d be bored because you are just too smart for a simple class in the Earth School.
So, the next time you encounter conflict, observe the little “c” consciousness or ego’s need to engage. Try if you can not to judge anything about what is happening but just observe and see if you can feel your way to the truth beyond assumption and perception. You can then ask questions, validate facts and then move forward in full awareness. It’s really quite amazing when you can train yourself to respond in this way in control of your faculties rather than being controlled by your little “c” consciousness. Just some more food for thought beautiful souls. Have a great day.
And if you need a little calm inspiration, have a listen to this great work from Deva Premal: