Sunday, May 13, 2018
Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there whether you are a biological mother or one who has bravely taken on the roll to mother a child or maybe even the inner child of an adult. At times motherhood will seem the greatest of thankless tasks. It certainly has its own rewards but most days you’ll feel anything but rewarded. Do it any way and give your all to that child in your care for one day that child will become a full-fledged adult and go out into the world and carve a path for him or herself. Don’t you want that to be an amazing path that inspires others?!
As a mother of 3 adult children and one running to get there, I have been through moments of great joy, endless nights of worrying whether I did this right or that right and always trying to keep my wits about me even tired, tried and completely spent so that I could create the best opportunities for each of them in my own way. It wasn’t easy but it is worth it. My kids may not be the best or the brightest from the perspective of others but they are something by far more important in my eyes. They are good people and to me, they are absolutely the very best. They have morals and values, they question the status quo, they stand up for themselves and for others and they follow their hearts as they carve their own paths in this life. That! That makes me a very proud mama.
I still work hard to see clearly, the grown persons that they are beyond the little chubby faces and hands wrapped up in a blanket snuggled close as I rocked them to sleep. Do we ever lose that ability? To see the tiny precious child we have wrapped in our arms? You know, every person we meet was a child just like that. I wonder what it might be like if every person we encountered, we could flash back to that moment they were a tiny, precious, swaddled and loved child? Would we be able to treat everyone we meet as if they were our own child? I mean from the perspective of love and respect just for having made it to adulthood here in this frame? What if we could look at ourselves with that same love and respect each time we looked into the mirror, forgetting completely about the years of tears and environmental psychology?
It takes so very long for a human child to grow into adulthood, self-functioning and reliant. Some do it so well and some, maybe, not at all but I think they are still deserving of the love and respect from some place within them, from some place within the heart of all of us. The world is full of children, just at different ages and various stages of progression. Can we not find a way to love something in them all? If we take this further and remember the smaller children…they want what they want when they want it and can become very frustrating people to have to deal with! But, we love them any way, no matter what they do and no matter how crazy they seemingly make us. What if we could hold that perspective for all of humanity, the good, the bad and the ugly?
All have gifts they bring to this awareness we all share. I can appreciate that whether or not I agree with someone else’s behavior. If I can look at every child and even the inner child of the adults I encounter as if he or she were my own, I could honor them at least with unconditional love or respect without sacrificing my own discernment as to whether or not I will participate along with them in anything I feel borders on the unsavory. It feels to me that this perspective relieves me of my need to be better or best because we are all children dreaming this dream, learning to play nice in the sandbox who will one day grow up and look at the path that we have carved into this world.
I pray every day for my own children and the children of every mother who ever was and ever will be. That prayer includes that each finds his or her own heart, that each finds a way to conquer the things they maybe should not have had to learn, that they embrace the paths towards awareness, self love, self-care and care for others they encounter on the path. The ability to love with out fear is a challenge for many but as children, remember that we once loved without fear? No matter what life has taught us in this regard we can RE-Remember what it was like, find that place again that truly unites us all and we can love the world and her children. From this place of love, I greet this morning openly, aware, hopeful, filled with faith that the tiny fearless loving heart of every person on this planet will awaken. Maybe they could find a place of gratitude for the life they were given and realize regardless of biology, they’ve had many mothers in their lifetime who have taught them amazing things that will influence their lives for the better. There is that one person somewhere and some how who inspired in love and we knew that a part of our hearts remained alive and giving as a result. I think there is a little mother within us all that guides us every day in our thoughts and good deeds great and small. Cherish this not so very silent parent, this Source of our truest love.
Happy Mother’s Day. I am grateful for all of you, for all that you do, for the hardships you master and the love you always find a way to give.
Copyright 2018, Jaie Hart (photo/words)
Monday, January 1, 2018
Like many thousands across the globe, I woke up to a whole new year. I wonder what it will bring but I won’t wonder too much. I stopped making resolutions a long time ago. Instead, I set goals and take steps to achieve them. I don’t spend much time in review any more, I find living through some things once is more than enough. I don’t take much time to sit in regret because I now trust myself more than any one and know that at any given moment in time, I did the absolute best that I could and things turned out exactly the way they were supposed to.
It has been so very quiet inside of my head for so long now. It feels as if I were a ship with seas so quiet you could hear a pin drop. No wind for my sails for a prolonged period gave me much time to just feel and be, rather than do and go. I’ve not created much in a while, hardly a posting. It troubled me briefly until I began to truly understand that it was not a lack in connection I suffered but a time of being fully connected to experiencing everything from an ever-expanding perspective and on each experiences’ own terms.
I won’t waste time in sorrow over anything in the last year that has come and gone. All came perfectly; all went perfectly. I do appreciate discovering lessons and I learned once again, my strength flourished in abundance in many appreciated and unexpected ways. So, thank you Universe, Mother-Father God Goddess for the opportunity to be and breathe and exist here in this frame.
Life is fairly simple when we are not over-complicating it with expectation. I spent the year living in a state of non-expectation. I have to say, my last year went better than most I can remember. I kept my consciousness close to the moment, mastered some fears and realized I had more I would contend with in time. I discovered I had great love for many a thing and patience as vast as the Universe.
I was tired at year’s end so took some time off for rest. That was a very good decision, I think. This next year will be very busy at work and I have new goals to work on for no other reason than to improve upon my surrounds and greater appreciation for being. I’ll let go some more of the past that I’ve carried and embrace the empty spaces left behind with much love, wonder and excitement for life.
So, another year on planet Earth is complete. I hope to take the magic and wishes of the holidays with me through each day of this next year. I’ve never really tried that before but it seems like this next year will need a little more magic than most and perhaps it’ll show us a bit of its own. I smile at the thought and let it go with a warm and delicious sip of coffee on this cool, dark and quiet January 1.
I hope that you have a heart full of dreams, a mind filled with wonder and a sense of great peace about you every day of this next year. Make it amazing with your ab-soul-ute best effort in every moment. When this time next year comes around, you’ll be glad that you did for no other reason than a string of truly treasured experiences.
Wishing you great flows of beautiful energy, Blessings and much love.
(copyright 2018, Jaie Hart-photo and words)
Saturday, December 9, 2017
Off in the distance I can hear the drone of the cars moving speedily down the freeway. I think when it is cold out, like it is this morning, the sounds are more crisp and clear. I’m sipping warm coffee and contemplating the week I had. After dinner and some Christmas shopping last night, we listened to Christmas music. My memory was flooded not with pictures and words but a myriad of feelings so intense. It was truly beautiful.
As I sit here quietly tapping away on my keyboard, I can hear the buzz of cell phones in the house, social media and push notifications starting early. Isn’t it simply amazing how physically we are connected now? Within minutes, we know just exactly what is happening in some other part of the world so very far from where we are.
My little kitten yawns and stretches as my newly become adult child, who forgot to go to sleep in her own room last night, snoozes away so peacefully. I relish the quiet time of the morning before my family starts moving. It is peaceful and I can reach with my mind and being out into the world as if to send it the very best thoughts I can muster. I’m grateful in this moment to be sitting in my home, that I have a home and with sleeping family, that I am also so very grateful to have.
Such a busy day we have today but I don’t have to think about that now. I can continue to listen to the comforting sounds coming from the free way off in the near distance. So many people coming and going, moving and thinking. This place is incredibly wonderful with all of the science and gadgets we have at our finger tips. To be honest, I take some things for granted.
I remember growing up, also not far from a very busy freeway. In the wee hours of the morning, I would listen to the cars while the sun came up. There were no social media push notifications on cell phones buzzing about the house then. The mourning doves would sing the sun up and there wasn’t coffee for me then. Just wonder about the day would hold. I didn’t think as much then but I felt and what I felt was a strange peace and powerful energy that permeated everything. I’d usually get up early, dress quickly and head outside to climb the tall pine tree in the front yard. I always tried to see the freeway but I couldn’t quite get high enough. In the branches of that tree I felt not only peace but a great comfort. To be cradled by a tree is magical.
My thoughts meander now to all the trees and homes lost in the fires still burning in California. It’s strange to me that we have a Fire Season. We’ve always had it and so many days, even as I child, do I recall walking to school to see ashes floating through the air like it was a normal and ordinary occurrence at this time of year.
Times have changed in so many ways. The Earth grows hotter in my little corner of the world. It is December and we’re to see 85 degrees today. Not very Christmas-y. I suppose we’ll have to just hold the spirit of it in our hearts and pray that all those of our neighbors affected by this year’s fire season are ultimately safe. I ask for blessings now from the 4 directions and I send them out across the globe. May the peace and reverence surround all, may the love and wonder of the world bring endless curiosity and gratitude for all of the wisdom of each of our respective experiences in life. I wish you joy this day and great blessings for all of the rest of your days.
Copyright 2017, Jaie Hart photo/words
Sunday, November 12, 2017
If I look back, across the entire span of my life, I see many things. I have experienced a great share of loss, of pain, anguish, betrayal, unpleasant surprise, wounding, mistreatment and dire sadness. If I look back at those emotions, I might see an entire life wasted in frustration and feeling too much pain. If I shift my gaze but just a little, I can also see triumph, recovery phases, moments of epiphany when the lessons dawned on my sleeping mind and an endless well of strength from which I dealt with all of my experiences. If I look back carefully at the entire span of my life, I can see there too, great and magical joy, bliss, discovery, wonder, amazement, curiosity and a drive to always seek deeper meaning and understanding. It has been a good life, I can say, in my first 50 years on planet Earth.
Now, now I begin a new part, a new path, and in many ways the same direction only with a broader worldview, a less personal worldview and a more open perspective on a great many things. I have experienced for a great while, a feeling of stasis, non-movement, and silence all with a great sense of anticipation, but for what, I just do not yet know. So, I dial it all back to the basics with great reverence and curiosity and notice the little things that haven’t caught my attention like the young tree standing near 6 feet tall in my garden. I sought to pull it out once many years ago and it merely persisted. So, I let it live where it is most want to grow and I’m happy to let it. I haven’t a clue about what kind of tree it is and it doesn’t really matter. It is strong and healthy and it sought purchase in the tiniest strip of land. I hope that it prospers and grows. I am reminded that we sometimes cannot even remotely understand the seeds we have planted. We cannot see until the evidence grows much stronger, and taller, right before our eyes.
Life is a struggle sometimes, it is hard sometimes and it is a bit too busy or quiet for our liking sometimes. But life persists despite our mental meanderings and musings, despite our emotions or desires and even dreams. Life persists on its terms in the way that might truly be the most beneficial for us. So, what to do in these next steps as the path slowly emerges? I don’t know other than taking deep and gentle breaths as I learn to walk more gently, treat this body and all beings here much more sensitively, and to love more every single stick and stone that I come across with an ever greater and endlessly unfolding sense of pure and pristine gratitude. Everything here has great history and magic as they have become here in this place. We seem to always be in a state of becoming here but there is always this tiny precious place within us that already just IS. Can you imagine that? A place within us that isn’t becoming anything, just a quiet, transparent persistence of being, the I AM, the All of Everything perhaps peering out through our being, shining light on the pathway, giving us the quiet impetus for motion? Life is a great wonder and I must say that I greatly look forward to every breath and step in this time-space for as long as I am here.
I believe that in my years of quiet contemplation and existence, I am learning to see without my physical eyes. I see through this sense of energy and feeling, this great sense of massive expanse stemming from everything in my field of vision. I begin to understand a more steady presence always humming in the background just below normal auditory sensation. It just IS and I’m not sure I need to wonder about that. I think I am taking great comfort in the ability to be a part of the beautiful energy that just IS. I suppose I could look back in regret or over-sentimentality here and there but that just really isn’t the heart of who I am. I’ve thought all of my life I should be this or that or engage in doing this or that not just the right way but in the most perfect way. All of it illusory thinking. Being a part of what IS truly is the greatest realization. Not focused on any form of It-ness but an Is-ness is much more liberating. It is hard to explain something that is more of a feeling and not an emotion at all but perhaps a different sense altogether.
It won’t matter much to you unless you have wondered about these things. I’ve learned in all of this time and with all of this experience that thinking cannot get you anywhere near this feeling of being with what IS. And, this feeling carries its own sort of magic, peace and beautiful gratitude. It contains within it a sense of perfect flow like an unimpeded stream. I hope that you one day experience this. I may write some more on this topic if the thoughts ever decide to coalesce better. Until then, grab hold of gratitude for every breath you are here to take and treat yourself with pure and beautiful gentleness along with a great reverence. Your being is beautiful. Blessings.
Copyright 2017, Jaie Hart (photo/words)
Saturday, September 23, 2017
Do you think that in such times, the tiny little aches from within your own heart might seem like a bit more than just the echoes and tingles of past pain or your own seeming failures? What are your regrets? Did you know that these things....these things we try so very hard not to think about are THE very things begging you for greater understanding? Holding these as uninvestigated nagging little somethings without our concerted attention, creates only fear, self-loathing and disease or discomfort? We don't need pills, a bottle, busy work or hobbies to stave off the pain. What we need is love...a big dose of healthy self-love, compassion, connectedness and understanding.
The world will give us nothing but more reminders of those tiny little nagging cracks in the core of our hearts. As much as it might seem so, this is not cruel. It is by design. These are not horrible moods or emotions but messengers of hope, faith and love. How on Earth could this possibly be?- You might think. Truly, however, it is only a slight shift in understanding that could make this a little easier to grasp. Within you is a limitless store of magic, untapped-energy, light, love and gratitude. All that prevents your awareness or awakening to your own inner divine truth is the fear to investigate that which nags you to your core.
To get to the bottom of these nagging little fears and pains you must realize that it is wholly unnecessary to root out all possible causes or other-worldly seeming origins. Sometimes, all that is needed is your full awareness and presence of these little nagging urgings into fear or anger or some other uncomfortable emotion. Sometimes, simply acknowledging their existence while breathing with intent into a moment and showing yourself great compassion, understanding and gentleness is all that is necessary. Imagine talking to yourself with gentleness as you would a young child in need of wise counsel.
You have walked so many miles on your path. You have covered great distances. You have learned awesome, important and amazing things. You have accomplished so much in your journeying. Relax into this awareness and breathe deep within your core the gentleness of a single ray of glorious sunlight, a cool and gentle breeze, or the beautiful and powerful music of wind rustling in glorious leaves....it is much more simple than you can imagine.
Relax you, your resistance and move into peace. Flow like a stream as your truest intuition guides you, follow the true calling of your hearts and feel the blessings therein. They are many and of infinite value just awaiting your discovery. Know that you can heal through living with the greatest integrity towards self. You can achieve greater contentment not through things or striving to be better than anyone else but through connecting with your presence and through your presence, the Spirit of nature and the All of Everything. It is not so complex. Intent is all that is needed. Willingness to explore is all that is needed. Faith is a must...a true faith in yourselves and your own energy to begin. So, just begin.
May your God or Goddess bless and carry you ever more fully into your trues core life purpose with every breath and step. Feel for the truth of you, breathe through the essence of you and through that essence, the connected consciousness of everything.
© 2017, Jaie Hart (photo/words)
Saturday, September 9, 2017
The Birds are beginning to stir as my little coffee pot finishes its fine brew. It has been a rough week but beautiful too. Strange happenings in the world this week have my mind and energy stretched out far and wide. To all who suffer, I pray for comfort and peace. To all who feel lost, I pray for the deepest feeling of home and love. For all those worried and in mourning, I send great gentleness and even more love. For all those out there trying to make this world a better place, ROCK ON! You got this! We’ve all got this, really.
I’ve thrown all the windows open to let in the breeze, as slight as it may be. I’ve a full day of things to do and places to be. My mind has been stirred so much these last few days, sleep hardly greeted me at all last night. The coffee seems exceptionally good just now. My last post was very sad so I really felt I wanted to post something a little bit lighter. I just don’t know if I can deliver. I try. I always try.
Were it not for the kindness of complete strangers this week, I probably would have been a total wreck. Dealing with loss is never easy, even when you know in your heart that those loved ones who leave us go to a better place. The energetic void of their non-physical presence is very real to a grieving heart. But so is the very real presence of hope, acceptance, perseverance and love. I have all of these things and employ them to help me through a challenging time.
Grief is not so terrible a thing. It just seems like it at first. As I sit here quietly thinking this morning I realize the beauty of the feeling that underlies the grief. It is overwhelming at times only due to the overwhelming love shared for a time. That is not horrible. It is so very beautiful. Each wave of heaviness that makes its way towards me, I let crash directly into me. I hold no fear for grief and mourning. I hold steady knowing the truth of this delicate and gentle time.
Grief, you must know, can take physical form in aches, pains and severely lacking sleep. This is okay. It is just part of the process. We breathe with more purpose in the dark seeming times. Each breath serves a greater purpose when you are dealing with loss. With great mindful presence can you withstand the waves of heaviness and the winds of change you must now contend with. What begins will end and it is only a matter of time. Feeling the emotion is hard and scary but less so if you don’t let that fear begin to control the process. It seems only natural to contend also with fear…how will I ever get through this? We might begin to think at times. But, you do get through it…one breath and one step at a time and often with many pauses along the way to lean towards your memories. I smile today with memories of happier times, sweet and gentle times. I am not discouraged by loss. I am encouraged by the love I still and always feel. Maybe that gets me through. Maybe it is truly the strongest faith I have In myself and my Maker to help get me through this and I will get through this.
My thoughts localize and I take a sip of my coffee. In the distance I hear the cars passing on the freeway and the birds slowly preparing for the day. Its dark still this morning and I can hear someone’s alarm going off in the distance. I just wish them well. I hear the leaves moving ever so slowly in the trees outside of my window now and then when a gentle sea breeze lifts them up. I hear the whir and whine of my neighbor’s air conditioner and my coffee pot clicking as it stays warm on the burner.
Today I collect the ashes of my beloved little friend. I won’t lie and say that doesn’t hurt but my mind is now ready to embrace any emotion because I know I can breathe, I know I can move and I know I can master this part of the process no matter how hard it may be for me. Today I have hope and faith and I know that I can smile and laugh. I can give comfort to others and share whatever it is I can to lend a little gentleness to their day. There is a shift inside when we are dealing with loss. The little cracks and fissures that seem to grow within our hearts isn’t just the heart breaking. It is also a beautiful opening. I intend to let that continue every day. Every day.
In a miserable tearful moment this week, I asked for a sign that my little friend was okay and do you know what I got? The sign. It came and it is too personal and precious to share but my heart hurts a little less today and I’m really grateful. I can do this today – this life, these tasks and things. I will treat myself later to a massage to help ease all the places the grief has temporarily stored itself and I will breathe in every beautiful ray of sunlight with a heart-felt smile today if for no other reason than that is just what I do.
Whenever it feels like the pain is pulling all hope away from you, stop, take a breath and maybe another and another. Slowly center your thoughts on your breathing. Slowly center your thoughts on each sound you hear. Notice your emotions swirling but don’t give them an ounce more importance than your breath. Stay focused in these moments for just a few minutes. Realize you are not your grieving and are certainly not your pain. These are just parts of an experience you are witnessing in your life. Observe the experience, feel the experience and just breathe. For any of you grieving I pray you are enfolded in gentleness and wrapped in love and sweetness. Consider ways you can bring yourself more of this energy. You will get through this best by getting through this. If you are a friend of someone suffering loss, give to them gentleness, presence if they want it and comfort if they need it. Keep following up. It is a gift to be that light for someone walking through a dark part of their life journey.
May you be comforted, may you be blessed.
May you be comforted, may you be blessed.
© 2017, Jaie Hart (photo/words)
Thursday, September 7, 2017
Written September 5, 2017:
My heart is so heavy it feels as if it cannot bear even the tiniest increment more of this pain. Grief is a process and mine has only just begun. I lost a very dear friend today. I didn’t lose him in the usual way. He got sick. He was not going to get better and so I had to compassionately release him. It happened so quick and he was gone. For almost 14 years of my life he was there for me every single day. He was sweet, so very sweet. Every morning he would greet me as I went down stairs to make my coffee. He used to wait at my door but as the years went by, he stopped hopping up the stairs like he used to. He would hear me on the stairs and start meowing. We would talk while I made coffee and got him his breakfast. So much have we been through, he and I.
He was the most beautiful and majestic kitty I have ever seen. His sweetness was beyond anything I’ve ever known in a furry friend. I remember the day we brought him home. He was so tiny that he fit in the palm of my hand. He was so beautiful, long black fur, and those huge yellow eyes. My youngest daughter was only 1 and over the years, they became best friends. I used to love to watch the love that they shared. It made me smile from the center of my heart. It was just simply beyond beautiful. I'd honestly say it was truly extraordinary.
Today was beautiful too. We brought him home from the ER having already gotten the news he would never recover. I made a tough call because I loved him so much and just could not bear for him to experience any more pain, no more stress of vet visits and finally be at peace. We all had the afternoon off to spend with our little family friend. We played, as much as he could. We loved as much as he would let us. We gave him his favorite treats. We each sat with him and stroked his still so very beautiful, long black fur. For brief moments, all seemed normal even though there was a heaviness in the air. The clock ticked quickly and the hour came. The hour came...
We drove to our wonderful vet. They explained what would happen and we braced for it and it happened lightening fast. So fast that if you blinked, you’d have missed it. His spirit was gone soaring. Our hearts broke and broke and broke. They break still. We reached a point where there would be no more thinking about the tomorrows. He was where he was, sick, deteriorating and sometimes the most compassionate and loving thing you can do is let go. So, we let go. And now, now there is grief and wishing it hadn’t happened but knowing it did, it has and we can’t go back. We have to cry, mourn and face the empty space in our lives he left us with. He was so sweet. His energy of just being there was so precious to me. I’m so very grateful for my little friend. It might seem silly to feel so much for a cat. But he was not just a cat. He was my friend, a true and good one. He was the littlest member of our family and we just loved him so.
He brought so much to our lives in the simple things, with his constant presence and the joy and laughter he seemed to often inspire in all of us. I am so very grateful that he was part of our lives for as long as he was. Our little furry friends can be so very special in our lives. We mourn because we loved and that can never be wrong. I hurt and I hurt a lot but you know what? I wouldn’t change it. I wouldn’t change knowing him or any day that I had with him in my life. The memories of him, we will always treasure and today? Well, we got through it as a family. As hard as it was on each of us, we walked our little friend home with love, with dignity and with great appreciation for all that he gave us. Good bye Zacky Midnight, my little special friend. I pray God has the most special place for you in Heaven. You deserve that and so much more. We love you and miss you.
Hold your fur babies close and love without any fear. Sometimes life is great joy and sometimes too, great sadness. The point is to love. The point is to experience. The point is to share. Our little fur babies share so much with their sweet innocence and never ending love. They are truly treasures. If you are grieving the loss of a family pet, my heart goes out to you. I know your pain and I know that pain means you loved and were loved by a precious little fur baby. Even if it doesn't last forever, the love never dies. It just never dies. May your God or Goddess be with you and your fur babies no matter whether they are here or happily and patiently waiting for you somewhere near the Rainbow Bridge.