Friday, July 10, 2015
Sometimes in life we get rather comfortable with the routine of things. We’re happily doing this or that humming right along and then suddenly it happens, change peers at you just above the horizon. Sometimes that change is actually coming from deep within you but you may not notice that until you learn to become incredibly aware of how you create in this life and why.
Change often seems like an unwanted surprise and something we often at first resist. But here is a little nugget of truth you’ve probably heard before or know deep down inside: If nothing ever changed, we would become complacent, our senses dulled by routine and our brain cells would waste away without the challenge that change brings.
So, we mix it up a bit or the universe in its infinite wisdom seems to help you along with that whether you are willing or not. The depth of discomfort change will bring you depends solely on your level of resistance to it. What we resist persists and so it’s best to face change with courage. I feel that way about change.
Change is hard to deal with whether we choose it or it chooses us. The thing to remember is that change is always good. No. Of course it doesn’t always feel good but when you get past the moment of big change and look back, you can often see the wisdom you may not have gained without it. Even unwanted change can bring us necessary growth that we ultimately benefit greatly from.
So much change is on the wind as is so often the case for me. I’ve learned to look at a change a little differently. Instead of tensing up in fear or bracing at the thought of it, I just sort of jump into it and take what comes. There is always something good in the end. Always. I can’t think of a single change that did not carry some form of benefit even if it initially brought me pain. The pain contrasts, hones and refines our character and can make us better and stronger. We just have to allow it to be that for us and then it will be. Resisting change just makes it more painful. Embracing it with curiosity and staying in the moment, makes it much more palatable or at least a tiny bit less painful to deal with.
Sometimes change means we have to mourn the way things used to be. It’s okay to be in touch with your emotions when change shows up at your door. Denying emotion is not a loving thing to do for one’s self. Allowing yourself to feel how you feel is a very kind thing to do for you. Trusting yourself to manage the change is another way to minimize any suffering. You can handle change. You can manage change. You can recover from change. You can even find some kind of silver lining in it if you want to. Everything comes spinning right back to you and your thoughts and perceptions about change.
Change is the one thing we can always count on in life. Why not settle in and get comfortable with that idea and find a way to be okay with it? If you don’t like certain changes, depending upon what they are, you have decisions to make. We do get to make some choices in life. While we cannot stop the sun from setting, we can learn to love the stars. If we don’t care for sunlight and sunburns, we can move into the shade and still enjoy the day. Being willing to be a change agent for yourself is sometimes very necessary to bring about your own growth too. Change is not the enemy. We can become our own enemy when we face it. It’s up to us how we will choose to see it. We can struggle against it and suffer or we can let it flow and carry us to a better place in time.
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