Saturday, September 18, 2010
The Things I Know....
If you attempt to fight back with a wounded person, you are wasting your breath. Those who are emotionally unhealthy will use all manner of nasty tricks to find out where your goat is tied up. Don't let them find your goat. Don't have your buttons where they can be pushed with these folks. Consider the source, you don't need to argue your point with a wounded soul, let go and move on. Set boundaries and disengage.
If you do the right thing when given a choice whether or not someone is watching, you will feel better about who you are.
In relationships, love is never enough. There has to be so much more in order to hold a relationship together. Try all of those things and more if a relationship means something to you. If your ego has been engaged, you've already lost the fight. Go get some quiet time and think about what you appreciate and then start over.
If you don't pay the bills, the credit collectors will hound you and it will feel really bad. Don't over-promise and then under-deliver in any aspect of your life. This will help ensure your happiness.
No matter how good you think you are, there is someone out there better than you. BUT, that doesn't take away from who you are. Never forget that for a single moment.
Sometimes in life, bad things happen. You aren't being punished, neglected or overlooked by your Creator. Life lessons occur day in and day out and you will always be given the grace to cope, a shoulder to lean on or a thought to lead you out of the dark and into the light--you just need to be open to receiving that thought.
A negative attitude will attract more negativity into your life. Every day, start and end your day with gratitude. Recount the good things you did that you were proud of. Acknowledge the things you'd like to improve upon. Always hold out hope that you can do anything you set your mind to.
People will do and say hurtful things that might make you feel bad. There are positive ways to deal with these situations and negative ways to deal with these situations. Try your best always to stay above the line in your thoughts and reactions and you won't add to any bad feelings you are experiencing.
Anger promotes a thick and toxic energy, as does fear, vengeance and hatred. Check your expectations, work to expose and heal your fears, step away from vengeful thoughts and steer clear of any form of hatred. This is not for the benefit of those around you but just for you and your happiness. Anger is a warning. Take it as such and deal with anger constructively. Calm anger by removing yourself from heated situations so you won't do things you might later regret. This is a boundary you always have the right to set.
Compassion is the highest form of love and appreciation. It holds the highest healing feelings in almost any situation. Watching compassion in action makes everyone feel good--love. Choose compassion every chance you get and watch your life change for the better.
Obsession is always an unhealthy form of escape from something within you trying to get your attention. Give up any obsessions and step into the seat of your soul and feel whatever feelings are trying to get your attention. You can love the pain away (and you can get professional help if you need it).
Addiction is another unhealthy form of escape from something within you trying to get your attention. See above!
When you feel bad, step outside of your worries and woes and do something kind for someone else and it will help to elevate your mood.
When the stress of the world begins to feel overwhelming, a walk in nature will soothe your soul. Connect with nature as often as you can, watch the stars in a vast night sky or catch a sunrise or sunset as often as you can. Our days are numbered here. Spending them all in a stress-filled manner is a waste of your life. Find serenity on your journey. Don't wait to find it until you arrive at some unknown or planned destination. The journey is always the destination.
I am blessed to be a mother, a daughter, a sister, a niece, an aunt, a boss, a co-worker and a friend. I am grateful for all that I have and all that I have learned. I appreciate life and all of it's lessons and most of all, I appreciate YOU all of you out there who follow my blogs and my posts and encourage me every step of the way. Thank you dear souls. Many blessings and much love to you!